Family Business Advice

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Owning and operating a small family business – whether you are a business founder or part of the next generation to operate the business – is very different from running a small business with people who aren’t family members. We asked two local businesses to share their thoughts and advice related to the family business experience. One is part of a multi-generational family business and the other has been in business with her husband for over 20 years.

 

MARTY SANCHEZ, third generation of  Casa Sanchez


As a part of the third generation of a successful San Francisco Bay Area family business, Marty understands the dynamics of multi-generation family businesses and shares this advice:

 

On playing to your strengths

In every family business, each person has a strength that really helps the family – it could be related to sales, bookkeeping, organization, etc. You must learn who you are and figure out your strengths and then engage in the parts of the business that you are good at and where you can make a difference.

 

On communication and compromise

With family, you sometimes speak without thinking first. Nagging is a common way of communicating in our family businesses. This is not the best way to communicate, but it can be effective! You must not forget that the strength of the relationships is the strength of the business. Family business means compromise. This goes for out-laws (in-laws), too, who may not fully understand the family dynamics and have their own ideas for the business.

 

On personal vs. business time

One holiday many years ago when the family was together, we couldn’t stop talking about the business. Someone said, ‘Let’s not talk about business at all on Thanksgiving and Christmas’… and we’ve stuck to it! This makes holiday time extra special.

 

On growing up in a family business

Kids get involved with a family business organically. They hang out at the business after school every day and start to help out. They learn about it without even knowing it. It’s ‘Take Your Kid to Work Day’ every day! As kids get older, they can feel obligated to help their parents, siblings, or other family members. Guilt can play a large role as they don’t want to abandon the family. We need to be sensitive to these feelings and make sure that those in the next generation feel comfortable talking to someone in the family about the business and their role in it.

 

On compensating family members

There needs to be a clear understanding about how compensation is handled for family members and how pay and raises are calculated. Imbalances in pay or a lack of clarity lead to resentment. Create clear compensation rules that are related to roles, tasks, hours worked, etc. and put it in writing.

 

On getting outside support

When an issue comes up, it can be hard to talk about it openly, and in a way that leads to resolution. A family member may be unhappy but may not feel comfortable talking about it. It has been really helpful for us to meet with a mediator to discuss issues, find ways to compromise, and move forward.

 

On family pride

People love to support family businesses and they love to hear that I am the third-generation in our family business. Customers recognize the commitment, passion, dedication, and hard work and want to support us. I’m very proud to be a part of a family-owned business.


 

DEBORAH BOWES,  CO-OWNER OF  FELDENKRAIS CENTER FOR MOVEMENT & AWARENESS


Deborah has co-owned Feldenkrais Center for Movement & Awareness with her husband, Cliff Smyth, since 1996. Here are her tips for other businesses owned and operated with a life partner:


On communication, compromise and sharing the load

Agree on the steps to take next and be willing to compromise and sometimes follow your partner’s dream. Try to share the stress. Be attentive to when your partner needs a break and give it to him/her.

Be honest with what you want to do and the kind of support that you need. Allow each other to work from his/her strengths. Give a lot of support when your partner is doing something the he/she doesn’t like to do or doesn’t want to do. After all, there’s always going to be some of that! Make specific times for work meetings and take notes. It’s so easy to forget who agreed to what.


On managing conflict

Don’t talk about work before going to bed. Go for walks to talk out difficult issues. When you both are around your employees, be professional with each other. Keep any private issues at home.


On work/life balance

Home support is essential. Share tasks related to cooking and cleaning and use a housecleaner if that is helpful. If you get grouchy after you have worked all day, come home hungry and there’s nothing to eat in the house. Have food in the freezer ready for a quick meal or get take out once a week.

Your business depends on your own self care and health. It is as important as everything else you do. Stay hydrated and try to fit some type of movement or exercise into your day. Laugh together and relax together.


By Paul Terry July 17, 2026
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By Paul Terry July 8, 2026
Kibo Farm’s Vince and Jenny Trotter. Here is the background of business experience, philosophy, and passion that Jenny and her husband Vince have used to start and develop a successful small business. (This interview written in part by Lauren Papalia a Sonoma County writer and part-time farmer and edited in length with some added details by Paul Terry) LP (Lauren Papalia) : Kibo Farm’s crops are nestled in a bowl, surrounded on three sides by Belden Barns grapevines. What are the nuances of your topography and the challenges and advantages that come with it? KF (Kibo Farm) : The property itself sits nearly 1,000 feet up the Northwestern flank of Sonoma Mountain, looking out over Rohnert Park and Bennett Valley. The beauty of this spot is that we rarely, if ever, get frost because cold air slides down the mountain, settling in the lower elevations. Our lemon, mandarin, lime, and yuzu trees love it! With that topographical feature working in our favor, we’ve got more citrus trees planned, which will help with wintertime cashflow. LP: Kibo Farm was an inaugural cohort of co-op members at FEED. Jenny, you were formerly the Board's president. Philosophically speaking, what are some of the challenges and benefits of structuring an organization in this way? KF: There are many benefits to the co-op model for the key stakeholders – in our case, the farms and FEED employees – are able to have a voice in how the business operates. The work that FEED does – marketing, selling, and moving local products from farms to customers – is such an essential part of the food chain. We can grow delicious produce, but we need to get it to eaters. With a cooperative structure, we are creating a robust, collaborative, and sustainable organization that we know we can count on. Additionally, we can reach buyers of scale that we might not have been able to serve well individually. LP: What do you find most rewarding about farming? KF: Hands down – the pleasure of feeding people. That may sound corny, but we get such a high watching friends or family enjoy a delicious meal that you prepared, multiply that by 10 and you will understand. We may not be in the restaurants and homes where our produce is served, but we know many of the chefs who buy from us, and our neighbors and friends. This is proof that our labors nourish and even delight our community. That brings us deep satisfaction. LP: You told us that “farming is the life to which you’ve been called, and if one word captures the feeling of that calling, it’s stewardship.” What does "stewardship" means to you? KF: Stewardship for us is bringing our whole selves to farming and making choices that result in long-term benefits to the land and to the living beings reliant on that land. It is about caring for this place for the time we are here and for the benefit of future generations. We don’t own this land but feel so grateful to be able to farm it and for the relationship we have with the landowners. Nate and Lauren Belden, who own the property recognize that, in this region, there is an imbalance by which land usage for wine grapes often outcompetes other forms of agriculture. They felt that sharing land can actually create some interesting opportunities that benefit the different crops as well as the people who farm them. The Beldens are conscious of the constraints placed on producers like us and work hard to make sure that our relationship works for everyone involved. LP: What’s something you wish more people knew about farming? KF: Over the last 20 years, farming has been glamorized where some farmers enjoy a near-celebrity status. This elevated profile of agriculture has helped all of us to find new markets and new customers. But farming sometimes gets labeled a "lifestyle" rather than a "living". Every farm is a small business struggling to stay alive. If many of us work second jobs that doesn't diminish the farm as an important enterprise, it simply underscores the difficult economics of producing food in this day and age. Across the US, the average farm makes less than 25% of the income they need to support their families from revenue generated on the farm. The bulk of what they need comes from other jobs. At Kibo Farm, land and housing is subsidized, but we still rely on off-farm work to cover over full cost of healthcare, childcare, etc., and so do our employees. LP. The USDA cites small holdings like Kibo account for over 90% of all US farms but only 15% of overall market value of agricultural production. How do we make this better? Do co-ops help ameliorate some of these issues? KF: We have to work together to solve problems like the high cost of land and disparate degrees of access. We have to raise the expectations for how much food should (because it actually *does*) cost. With time, we need to find ways to compensate farmers and ranchers not just for their products but also for the ecosystem services they provide to the community as a whole: sequestering carbon in the ground, converting food waste into soil-enriching compost, maintaining open landscapes, reducing wildfire fuels, and staving off invasive plants and insects. In terms of solutions, cooperative ownership models certainly play a significant part. By coming together with other farms who are technically our competitors, we can work together to supply food to communities on a much larger scale, creating economic security for the farms and a more stable supply chain for the communities. Cooperative ownership of land where farms pool capital and spread the risk of expensive acreage could be an interesting solution in competitive regions like ours. LP: What is your vision for the farm's future? What are you most excited or hopeful about? KF: One unique aspect of our farm business is the interdependent relationships we’ve built with certain chefs in the Bay Area. For several restaurants, we sit down each winter, pour over seed catalogs, talk about what we’re dreaming of and all the new things we’d like to try. From those conversations spring crop plans and lay out lists of different produce along with quantity and frequency of delivery. This kind of close-knit relationship brings security, because 70% of what we grow is virtually pre-sold. This allows us to take risks and deliver items to these chefs that they might not find anywhere else. Having partners who value what we do and entrust us with something so core to their own business inspires us deeply and injects every Spring with a spirit of excitement and even mystery that keeps us going.
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By Paul Terry June 13, 2026
As the coordinator of Renaissance Entrepreneurship Center‘s Business Planning Class, I helped small business entrepreneurs prepare for their emerging small businesses. Melissa was a very active student and role model for others – both with her classmates and her referrals to others to become future business owner. Melissa is an amazing jewelry designer and very smart and generous businesswomen. Melissa Joy Manning has created a socially responsible fine jewelry brand featuring unique, modern designs influenced by her passion for travel, art, and culture. The line encompasses multiple collections including one-of-a-kind pieces, signature designs, and custom, non-traditional wedding jewelry. Here are some thoughts that Melissa shared on goals, planning and having a vision. Melissa suggests that it was with our combined help (and from mother at Renaissance) that she learned about the importance of setting well-defined goals: “I was lucky enough to have had an amazing teacher, Paul Terry, at the Renaissance Center in San Francisco, who taught me the importance of vision. He taught me to envision my success and what it would encompass. I used these goals as benchmarks when building my brand. Every time I reached one, I would sit down and create another. As the ‘visions’ kept coming true, they emboldened me to think bigger and more creatively each time.” Here is some of Melissa’s great advice for others considering or running a small business of their own: Make sure it’s what you want to do. If you really love doing something consider how it will change when it becomes a business. I meet a lot of people who loved a hobby but when they had to economize it on a daily basis, found that they lost all joy in it. This must be something that you really want to do and will commit to do it for the longer term. Know that your life will change Your friendships, relationships, how you view the world…everything will change.. When you take charge of your life by forging your own path, a lot of lessons will come forward that you didn’t consider. In some ways, it’s like a veil lifts in how you see the world. Remaining true to yourself and your passion will carry you through any unexpected reaction or loss that success may bring to you. Always, always, always listen to your heart. If you are true to yourself you will always succeed.